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Highchair for time out chair?
Our just turned 3 year old son is at his worst 'terrible twos' phase and we are starting to use time outs on him. He hasn't been using his highchair for a while but does still fit it. Would it be okay to use his highchair as his time out chair - he wouldn't beable to get out and it would just be a short spell of quiet time he can't argue with. What do you people think about this idea?
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thatz what i do when im babysitting and it worx. u just tell them itz how they have to learn, and if they sit quietly for 5 minutes, they get a Secret Treat and if they are quiet enuff then ull secretly give them a piece of kinda. worx like a charm and i get paid good money for their obedience when the mom or dad comes home!
First of all, 'time outs' do NOT work. They do not work because children are not stupid. They know if they sit there for a few minutes - then they can go right back to what they did before and NOT be punished - it's just a psychological game for them and they win every time.
Children need discipline - not a few minutes to rest on a chair!!!
Children need discipline - not a few minutes to rest on a chair!!!
I don't think that is a good idea if he eats in it at all. But if he no longer eats in it then why not. But I would watch out. My son can climb out of his with out me knowing he did so we had to get rid of it. Have you tried the cornner?? i was told that their time out should match the age that they are. So since he is 3 his time out schould be for 3 mins. that is a life time to them.
I agree with children needing a time out; however I think a high chair could be dangerous. He is going to try and get out, and might cause the chair to rock. So I would think about getting another chair. Plus you want time out to enforce that your son needs to listen to you, and putting him in a high chair is too contained. I understand that if the chair is on the ground that he might get up and run around. But you'll just need to be firm and continue to place him back in the chair... until he realizes that you mean business and not to get up.
I think it would be better for him and you if you had a separate spot for time out. A high chair is a luxury that he knows he used to get fed in. He needs a spot where he is away from people but still in eye sight. Try putting a "time out" chair in a corner. Then explain to him why he is in the chair. If he gets up then "you" need to sit him back down and talk to him. When his time is up, make sure you give him some positive reinforcement.
No to Time-Outs period. YOu will be much better rewarded in the future to teach your son how to deal with his emotions. The "terrible two's" (which is an awful term by itself) is caused because 2 - 4 year olds do not know how to deal with things they are feeling and thinking for the first times in their lives. If your son is hitting, instead of banishing him to a baby's highchair (both the act of time out and doubly the act of putting him in a baby's chair could cause self esteem problems later) try this: stop everything, get down on his level, tell him hitting is not the correct what to deal with this, and then immediately tell him what he should have done. What would be an acceptable behavior for him? When he does this....praise him for his good behavior. When he hits next time, repeat process. After a while, he will stop hitting and now know how to deal with the urge to hit. This is an example and I hope you can see how it benefits the child, parents, and society in general.
Time out does NOT teach the child what he SHOULD do, only that he shouldn't do what he did. Ok, maybe it's a ok approach at home. But, when you get out in public....the child will know he isn't gonna have a timeout in the store because it's just not possible and he knows if he throws a fit or hits you, it will be ok. It's the beginning of manipulation.
To the person who babysits and REWARDS the kids for sitting in time out?!?!?!? You have only taught the children that if they sit there they get a reward. They don't know what they did wrong. Even if they do, they are doing the bad behavior in order to get in to timeout in order to get a reward. That's a horrible pattern to be in. It's not doing the children any good. Please try to turn these kids around and teach them how to behave.
Time out does NOT teach the child what he SHOULD do, only that he shouldn't do what he did. Ok, maybe it's a ok approach at home. But, when you get out in public....the child will know he isn't gonna have a timeout in the store because it's just not possible and he knows if he throws a fit or hits you, it will be ok. It's the beginning of manipulation.
To the person who babysits and REWARDS the kids for sitting in time out?!?!?!? You have only taught the children that if they sit there they get a reward. They don't know what they did wrong. Even if they do, they are doing the bad behavior in order to get in to timeout in order to get a reward. That's a horrible pattern to be in. It's not doing the children any good. Please try to turn these kids around and teach them how to behave.
I think it would be ok as long as he no longer uses it and as long as you are right there to make sure he doesn't hurt himself. I've always just used the corner. He had to stay in the corner but I really didn't make him stick his nose in it. I would just walk him over to it, make him stand there and stay. I would walk away and continue with what ever it was that I was doing. If he tried to get out, I would take him back and say no. Explain the rules again and walk away. If I gave him attention, the fit would continue. As soon as he calmed down, I would only wait a few seconds after that and walk up to him and kneel down. I would always ask if he was going to be good and ask for him to say sorry and I would give him a hug. Then we would go on with our day. I have a 4 yr old and an 8 yr old. They are great children and behave wonderfully. This worked for me. Good luck. Gotta luv em.
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